The Secret To Succeeding At Meditation

Meditation has been working its way to the top of the wellness pantheon in recent years. People are starting to see its benefits, its power, and trying to incorporate it in their daily routines.


However, for all the buzz circulating around meditation and mindfulness techniques, it’s actually not all that common to practice it regularly or successfully. 


Why? One of the reasons might be that the simple challenge of it is nearly impossible to overcome. Deceptive in its simplicity- turning attention towards just one one thing, meditation is extremely challenging if you’re not already a seasoned practitioner. 


If you have tried your hand at meditating, you know this all too well. Our attention is too easily pulled elsewhere, away from the focus at hand. There is so much “noise”, both internal and external, that is clamoring for our attention at any given moment. 


The key to success? Unclear. Normally, we’re told to just keep doing it and eventually we’ll get somewhere. Seems feeble and inadequate for the busy lives and constant distractions most of us face. What are some better tips?


 Is there a way to somehow bypass or go around this insurmountable beginner’s dilemma? Something simpler and more gradual in how we can attune our focus.  


Attainability doesn’t mean setting the bar lower. Rather, it is a stepping stone to success. Therefore, instead of focusing on one thing for as long as you can, try to focus for periods of time , anywhere from 3-5 seconds. Until you give your mind a rest again. They’re like small mind pumps that are working it out so it can for longer and longer stretches of concentrated thought.  


This is very attainable, by everyone. Repeat it many times. That makes a success.  


Small attainable, repeatable actions can actually turn into something you can complete, rather than something you put off (or fail at) because the task is too monumental. A couple deep breaths, focusing for 3 seconds on a thought - these may seem small but they are powerful.


Don’t set yourself up for failure with tasks that are unattainable at first. Just the opposite. Build on small wins. Pick something simple. Give yourself 3-5 seconds to think, feel, focus. Then stop. 


Try it right now. 


I bet you had success? Right? 


Praise yourself. That was huge. You will probably feel a wave of relief. 


Over time, you will come to anticipate, appreciate, and enjoy these brief periods of intense focus because you give yourself rest after. It’s attainable


In spurts of a few seconds at a time, you’ll find yourself able to focus more and more when you decide to and set your intentions there. 


Keep this up and before you know it, these turn into a continuum of near constant function. It’s an addicting feeling and while you may still feel lapses in your attention, I think you’ll also feel extreme freedom from distraction. 


Turn meditation into a series of attainments, then successes. No more failures. Now that’s a 2020 goal for you!   

 

1 comment

Susan W

I loved reading “The Secret to Successful Meditation,” and came at just the right time for me. I’m just beginning to “try” practicing meditation, and it’s not easy, especially for those of us with overactive minds! It was really helpful to read what you said about doing it in little spurts – just to focus on a breath or a thought, even if it’s just for a few moments. It all adds up, and will grow into something bigger, just as it does in life when we start with little steps, and they grow – like starting a new exercise regime, or eating healthy, or even doing a nice deed. It all starts in little ways, we feel better, and then want to do it more and more. Thank you Andree for sharing this. It seems so simple, but means so much!

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